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7 Hal yang Tidak Bis@ DiRubah

Dalam hidup kadang kita sering mengeluh. Kenapa si A kok begitu sementara aku seperti ini. Dalam hidup, mengeluh itu janganlah kita lakukan, dan justru kita harus mensyukuri hidup ini. Ada 7 hal yang tidak bisa kita rubah dalam hidup kita, yaitu :

1. Jenis kelamin
Memang ada operasi untuk mengubah kelamin. Tapi tidak bisa mengubah roh (spirit) orang yang bersangkutan. Terimalah dirimu, apakah engkau wanita ataupun pria. Act like a woman/man!!
2. Orang tua.
Tidak ada yang bisa memilih dilahirkan oleh orang tua yang mana. So, you must respect your parents!! Apakah orang tuamu seorang pemabuk, penjudi, pelacur sekalipun, you must respect them!! Kalau tidak, itu akan terjadi dalam kehidupanmu nanti. Your kids won’t respect you, is it terrible?
3. Hari kelahiran.
Sudah ditetapkan oleh Tuhan, sebelum dunia dijadikan. Amazing ha? But it’s true. Jangan menyesali, mengapa engkau harus lahir ke dunia tapi disia-siakan oleh orang yang kau kasihi. Tuhan punya tujuan untukmu.
4. Bentuk Fisik
Kalau engkau keriting, yah keriting aja. Kalau hidungmu pesek, terima itu. Saya banyak melihat orang yang mengubah bentuk wajahnya, apakah itu memancungkan hidung, alis matanya dicukur habis, dll, jadi kelihatan aneh dan tidak natural.
(Jaman Sekarang dah canggih.... fisik bisa d rubah dgn kemajuan teknologi,Kalau Hati???sp yg bisa?:)
5. Masa lalu.
Ini juga sudah ditetapkan oleh Tuhan. Jangan melihat ke belakang.? karena itu hanya membuat engkau “frozen” - can not do anything! Look at the future and see how good it is.
6. Kedudukan dalam keluarga.
Apakah engkau anak bungsu, sulung, atau tengah, you can not change it. Nikmati sajalah.
7. Suku bangsa/ras.
Menyesal jadi orang Indonesia yang terus menerus dilanda kesulitan? Atau menyesal jadi orang Batak yang kalau menikah perlu upacara adat yang walahhhh mahal dan lama? Atau jadi orang Cina yang suka ditindas dan diintimidasi? hmmm…..

Nah, sekarang ubah cara berpikirmu. Tuhan sudah menetapkan engkau di bangsa ini untuk satu tujuan. So, do the best in your job, loyal, jangan korupsi, itu sudah menolong untuk memperbaiki bangsa kita ini.

Itulah 7 hal yang tidak bisa kita ubah. Kalaupun ada yang kita bisa ubah, misalnya: bentuk fisik, itu akan membawa kita ke dalam situasi yang tidak pernah puas. Selalu ingin ubah penampilan terus. Capek kan? Terimalah dirimu apa adanya, seperti Tuhan menerimamu.

Memang dunia melihat rupa, tapi Tuhan melihat hati. Apa yang kau lakukan setiap hari itu lebih penting dari penampilanmu. Bukan berarti kau bisa berpenampilan seenaknya, tidak!! Tapi engkau harus menerima apa yang sudah Tuhan berikan padamu. Kulitmu yang hitam (manis), hidungmu yang kurang mancung, rambut yang lurus, kurang tinggi, dll, dsb deh.

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Pria Lebih Menderita Karena Putus Cinta

Hubungan cinta tidak selamanya berjalan mulus. Ada yang sukses hingga ke jenjang pernikahan dan kemudian membuahkan anak. Namun lebih banyak hubungan cinta yang berakhir prematur dengan kedua pihak kembali menjalankan kehidupan lajangnya masing-masing. Ada yang berakhir baik-baik dengan keduanya saling mengucapkan terima kasih dan masih menjadi teman dekat. Ada pula yang berakhir tidak baik dengan keduanya saling mengucapkan sumpah serapah dan berurai air mata. Bagaimanapun juga, hubungan cinta yang kandas pasti sedikit banyak menimbulkan penderitaan bagi pihak-pihak yang terlibat di dalamnya. Pihak mana sebenarnya yang paling menderita akibat putus cinta?

Prialah yang sebenarnya paling menderita, menurut David Zinczenko, kolumnis majalah Men’s Health. Ia menolak anggapan umum bahwa pria lebih tegar daripada wanita dalam menghadapi putusnya hubungan percintaan. Apa saja alasannya?

Pria Menyembunyikan Perasaannya. Ketika seorang pria diputuskan oleh pasangannya, biasanya ia akan sesumbar: Biar saja, life still goes on. Caranya? 26% pria yang mengisi survei online Men’s Health melakukannya dengan minum-minum bersama teman-temannya. 36% pria akan menatap mantan pacarnya, tersenyum, dan mengucapkan terimakasih. Faktanya, kedua hal tersebut dilakukan pria untuk menutup-nutupi perasaannya. Ini adalah reaksi yang alamiah; gender pria dikondisikan masyarakat untuk tidak gampang menunjukkan perasaan, apalagi perasaan yang membuatnya terlihat lebih lemah. Namun represi ini juga berakibat sulitnya menghilangkan perasaan terluka, marah, atau sedih dari dirinya. Sebaliknya, wanita yang putus cinta biasanya langsung menangis (atau mengekspresikan emosinya) saat itu juga, dan wanita juga cenderung lebih to-the-point ketika mengakhiri hubungan cinta. Akhirnya mereka akan lebih cepat menghilangkan perasaan-perasaan negatif itu dibandingkan pria.

Pria Punya Lebih Sedikit Teman Curhat. Salah satu alasan mengapa wanita lebih cepat pulih dari penderitaan pasca putus cinta daripada pria adalah karena wanita memiliki lebih banyak teman yang bisa diandalkan untuk bercerita. Penelitian menunjukkan bahwa pria mengandalkan hubungan cinta untuk mendapatkan kedekatan emosional dan dukungan sosial, sementara wanita bisa mendapatkan hal yang sama dengan keluarga dan teman sesama wanita. Begitu wanita mengalami putus cinta, ia akan bercerita kepada siapa saja, kalau perlu kepada orang yang tidak dikenal yang duduk di sebelahnya di bis umum, agar perasaannya bisa lebih enak. Pria, di sisi lain, cenderung lebih enggan membuka diri untuk soal ini. Mungkin baru beberapa bulan kemudian, ketika dalam keadaan setengah teler, baru ia berani bercerita kepada teman-teman prianya mengenai betapa inginnya ia kembali lagi dengan si mantan.

Pria Tidak Suka Memulai Dari Awal Lagi. Setelah putus cinta, pada awalnya pria mungkin akan merasa semangat membayangkan wanita-wanita yang akan ia kencani di masa depan. Namun setelah kencan yang keempat, kesembilan, atau ketigabelas kalinya, barulah ia sadar kalau dibutuhkan usaha keras dan waktu yang panjang untuk sampai pada tingkat keintiman yang pernah ia alami bersama mantannya. Sebuah penelitian menunjukkan bahwa wanita lebih mampu menyesuaikan diri ketika hubungan berakhir karena sebelumnya mereka sudah memikirkan adanya kemungkinan itu, sementara pria biasanya lebih tidak siap dengan putus cinta. Perasaan nyaman secara emosional membuat pria merasa beruntung bisa memiliki seseorang seperti dia. Sayangnya, hal ini seringkali baru disadari ketika si dia sudah berubah status menjadi mantan pacar.

Gambaran Pacaran Pria Yang (Terlalu) Ideal. Banyak kasus putus cinta merupakan reaksi sesaat atas apa yang dirasa sebagai kebosanan; bosan dengan aktivitas, pembicaraan, dan pertengkaran yang itu-itu saja. Kalau kembali melajang, pria mungkin merasa ia akan menjalani hidup yang lebih menarik; tanpa komitmen, bebas pergi ke mana saja, dan bebas bergaul dengan wanita-wanita yang bisa dijadikan pacar baru. Barulah ketika benar-benar melajang ia sadar bahwa hidupnya tidak menjadi seperti itu, bahkan sekarang waktunya tersita oleh pekerjaan. Ia pun kembali merindukan keintiman yang dia alami pada masa pacaran dulu. Penelitian menunjukkan bahwa wanita lebih tinggi skornya daripada pria dalam hal keintiman sosial, seksual, dan intelektual. Dan biasanya wanita juga lebih cepat menyadari bahwa keintiman adalah dasar dari hubungan yang tahan lama, dan bukannya sekedar variasi aktivitas.

Menurut Zinczenko pula, beberapa penelitian menunjukkan bahwa pria lebih rentan mengalami stres, depresi, dan kecemasan ketika putus cinta dibandingkan dengan wanita. Itu menurut dia. Bagaimana pendapat anda? Apakah anda memiliki pengalaman yang membenarkan atau menyangkal pendapat ini?

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Who handles Break-Ups Better?

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Stress Management Strategy and Techniques

by Madhup Johri, Assistant Director, IPM Meerut.

Introduction

Stress is a part of day-to-day living of every individual. The college students may experience stress in meeting the academic demands, people on the job, business men may suffer stress to reach office in time and to complete the projects on time and even the house hold ladies may experience stress in managing the home affairs and to look for the maid servant. The reasons for the stress differ from person to person. The stress people experience should not be necessarily treated as harmful. An optimum amount of stress can always act as an energizer or motivator and propel people to apply the efforts and complete the work. But a high level of Stress can be a serious threat to the personality traits of the Individual and can cause physiological and social problems.

What is Stress?

We generally believe that the stress is caused by the external events and the dynamics of the environment. But we need to emphasis the fact that the Stress is caused by our reaction to the external environment. The manner in which we perceive and understand the changes or the particular event creates same event can bring happiness and cause Stress in two different people depending upon how they react to it. When students are asked to prepare a presentation, some may take it to be an opportunity to reveal their talents and to improve upon their weakness while the other students may be perturbed by it for the fear of his weakness. So, Stress is our reaction to external events and it can be positive or negative depending upon how we react. It is the general wear and tear of the body machine that takes place due to extra demands put on it.

We can define Stress as “ body's non-specific response to any demand made on it”. Stress is not by definition synonymous with nervous tension or anxiety. On one side Stress provides the means to express talents and energies and pursue happiness on the other side it can also cause exhaustion and illness, either physical or psychological.

Symptoms of Stress

As stated earlier Stress is caused by or reaction to the external events and bring about changes in our response and our general behavior. The presence of Stress can be estimated by the analysis of certain symptoms an individual shows. These symptoms can be divided into three different categories. They are Feelings, Behavior and Physiology. When the individual experience Stress, one or more of the following symptoms can be exhibited.

Feelings

* The individual becomes anxious about the outcomes and is scared. The person feels that he has got something to loose or something wrong will take place.
* In an anxious state the person does not want to be corrected or interrupted. He looks out for other areas where he can forget about the stress-causing event for a while. The person becomes irritable and moody.
* During high level of Stress the individual develops a negative frame of mind and suffers from low self-esteem. The person loose faith in his capabilities and is afraid of the failures. The individual does not have a focused approach and is not able to concentrate and is involved in his own plans and thoughts.

Physiological and Behavioral Changes

* Speech problems.
* Impulsive Behavior
* Crying for no apparent reason.
* Laughing in a high pitch and nervous tone of voice.
* Grinding of teeth
* Increasing smoking and use of drugs and alcohol.
* Being accident-prone
* Perspiration /sweaty hands
* Increased heart beat

* Trembling
* Nervous ticks
* Dryness of throat and mouth.
* Tiring easily
* Urinating frequently
* Sleeping problems
* Diarrhea / indigestion / vomiting/ nausea
* Butterflies in stomach
* Headaches
* Premenstrual tension
* Pain in the neck and or lower back
* Susceptibility to illness
* Loss of appetite or over eating

Causes of Stress


Both positive and negative events in one's life can be stressful. However, major life changes are the greatest contributors of stress for most people.

1.If people have to travel a lot and have to move from place to place, it can cause stress.

2.Individuals can also be under stress if they are about to enter some new environment. They may be going to a new colony. To a new college or they may be joining a new organization.

3.Some events, which are generally once in a lifetime can also cause stress. The social institutions of marriage or divorce can cause stress. Pregnancy can also generate Stress.

4. Some of the untoward incidents like critical illness or death of a relative can also cause stress in individuals.

These are some of the major events in the life of the individual that cause stress. It is also supplemented by the environmental factors that act as catalyst cause increment in stress. They are:

* Time pressure
* Competition
* Financial problems
* Noise
* Disappointments

Stress Management

Stress can be managed if we understand the reasons that cause stress and the level of stress. We should also try to estimate if we could bring about any change in the environment that can subsequently reduce stress.

1. Become aware of your stressors and your emotional and physical reactions.

Notice your distress. Don't ignore it. Don't gloss over your problems.

Determine what events distress you. What are you telling yourself about meaning of these events? Determine how your body responds to the stress. Do you become nervous or physically upset?

2. Recognize what you can change.

Can you change your stressors by avoiding or eliminating them completely? Can you reduce their intensity (manage them over a period of time instead of on a daily or weekly basis)? Can you shorten your exposure to stress (take a break, leave the physical premises)?
Can you devote the time and energy necessary to making a change (goal setting, time management techniques, and delayed gratification strategies may be helpful here)?

3. Reduce the intensity of your emotional reactions to stress.

The stress reaction is triggered by your perception of danger...physical danger and/or emotional danger. Are you viewing your stressors in exaggerated terms and/or taking a difficult situation and making it a disaster? Are you expecting to please everyone?

Are you overreacting and viewing things as absolutely critical and urgent? Do you feel you must always prevail in every situation?

Work at adopting more moderate views; try to see the stress as something you can cope with rather than something that overpowers you.

Try to temper your excess emotions. Put the situation in perspective. Do not labor on the negative aspects and the "what ifs."

4. Learn to moderate your physical reactions to stress.

Slow, deep breathing will bring your heart rate and respiration back to normal. Relaxation techniques can reduce muscle tension. Electronic biofeedback can help you gain voluntary control over such things as muscle tension, heartbeat and blood pressure.
Medications, when prescribed by a physician, can help in the short term in moderating your physical reactions. However, they alone are not the answer. Learning to moderate these reactions on your own is a preferable long-term solution.

5. Build your physical reserves.

Exercise for cardiovascular fitness three to four times a week (moderate, prolonged rhythmic exercise is best, such as walking, swimming, cycling, or jogging). Eat well-balanced, nutritious meals. Maintain your ideal weight.

Avoid nicotine, excessive caffeine, and other stimulants. Mix leisure with work. Take breaks and get away when you can. Get enough sleep. Be as consistent with your sleep schedule as possible.

6. Maintain your emotional reserves.

Develop some mutually supportive friendships/relationships.

Pursue realistic goals that are meaningful to you, rather than goals others have for you that you do not share. Expect some frustrations, failures, and sorrows. Always be kind and gentle with yourself -- be a friend to yourself.

Stress Management Techniques

A. Stress Diary - Finding Your Optimum Stress Levels

How to use tool: Keeping a stress diary is an effective way of finding out what causes you stress, the level of stress you prefer, and your effectiveness under pressure. In this diary keep track of your stress levels and your feelings, everyday. In particular, note down stressful events. Record the following information:

* At a regular interval, for example every hour, record routine stress. Note:
o The time
o The amount of stress that you feel (perhaps on a scale of 1 to 10)
o How happy you feel
o How efficiently you are working
* When stressful events occur, write down:
o What the event was
o When and where did it occur?
o What important factors made the event stressful?
o How stressful was the event?
o How did you handle the event?
o Did you tackle the cause or the symptom?
o Did you deal with the stress correctly?

Analyzing the Diary: After a few weeks you should be able to analyze this information. It may be interesting as you carry out the analysis to note down the outcomes of the jobs you were doing when you were under stress. This should give you two types of information:

1. You should be able to understand the level of stress you are happiest with, and the level of stress at which you work most effectively. You may find that your performance is good even when you feel upset by stress.
2. You should know what the main sources of unpleasant stress in your life are. You should understand what circumstances make stresses particularly unpleasant, and should be able to see whether your strategies for handling the stresses are effective or not.

B. Psyching Up' - Raising Stress Levels to Improve Performance

How to use tool: Where you are not feeling motivated towards a task, either because you are bored by it, or because you are tired, then you may need to 'psych yourself up'. This will increase your arousal so that you can perform effectively. You can try the following:

* Focus on the importance or urgency of the task
* Set yourself a challenge - e.g. to do the job in a particular time or to do it to a particularly high standard
* Break job down into small parts, do each part between more enjoyable work, and take satisfaction from the successful completion of each element.
* Use suggestion: e.g. 'I can feel energy flowing into me'
* Get angry about something!

C. Anticipating Stress - Managing Stress by Preparing For It

How to use tool: By anticipating stress you can prepare for it and work out how to control it when it happens. You can do this in a number of ways:

Rehearsal:

By practicing for a stressful event such as an interview or a speech several times in advance you can polish your performance and build confidence.

Planning:

By analyzing the likely causes of stress, you will be able to plan your responses to likely forms of stress. These might be actions to alleviate the situation or may be stress management techniques that you will use. It is important that you formally plan for this - it is little use just worrying in an undisciplined way - this will be counterproductive. Formal planning of responses to stress is a technique used by top-level athletes to ensure that they respond effectively to the stresses of competition.

Avoidance:

Where a situation is likely to be unpleasant, and will not yield any benefit to you, it may be one you can just avoid. You should be certain in your own mind, however, that this is the case, and that you are not running away from problems.

Reducing the Importance of an Event:

When an event is important to you, this can make it very stressful. This is particularly true where you are operating at a high level, where many people are watching, or where there is the prospect of a large financial reward, of promotion, or of personal advancement. The presence of family, friends or important people can also add to pressure. If stress is a problem under these circumstances, then think carefully about the event - take every opportunity to reduce its importance in your eyes:

* If the event seems big, put it in its place along the path to your goals. Compare it in your mind with bigger events you might know of or might have attended.
* If there is a financial reward, remind yourself that there may be other opportunities for reward later. This will not be the only chance you have. Focus on the quality of your performance. Focusing on the rewards will only damage your concentration and raise stress.
* If members of your family are watching, remind yourself that they love you anyway. If friends are real friends, they will continue to like you whether you win or lose.
* If people who are important to your goals are watching then remind yourself that you may well have other chances to impress them.
* If you focus on the correct performance of your tasks, then the importance of the event will dwindle into the background.

Reducing Uncertainty: Uncertainty can cause high levels of stress. Causes of uncertainty can be:

* Not having a clear idea of what the future holds
* Not knowing where your organization will be going
* Not having any career development plans
* Not knowing what will be wanted from you in the future
* Not knowing what your boss or colleagues think of your abilities
* Receiving vague or inconsistent instructions

D. Get a hobby or two, relax and have fun: Talk with friends or someone you can trust about your worries/problems.

1. Learn to use your time wisely:



Evaluate how you are budgeting your time.

Plan ahead and avoid procrastination.

Make a weekly schedule and try to follow it.

2. Set realistic goals and priorities

3. Practice relaxation techniques. For example, whenever you feel tense, slowly breathe in and out for several minutes.

E. Other Techniques:


1. Meditation can also be a good effort to bring down the stress levels.
2. Taking exercise
3. Effective time Management
4. Good Food and nutrition.


Conclusion: When we discuss Stress and its management, we should understand that this is not the exhaustive list of the stress factors and the various techniques. Stress can be confronted and reduced if and only iff we understand ourselves better, analyze the behavior and identify the stressors. The stress management techniques will work if we are honest with ourselves and adopt the techniques in their fullest spirit.

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Emotional health

If you are emotionally healthy you will have ways of dealing with and overcoming depression, anxiety, chronic pain, loneliness and grief.
Emotional health can best be described as a state where you are in control of your thoughts, feelings and behaviours. You feel good about yourself and your relationships and can keep problems in perspective. Emotionally healthy people can still have emotional problems and mental illness, but they have learned of ways to cope with stress and problems and know when to seek help from their doctor or counsellor.

Anxiety
Anxiety is an uncomfortable feeling of fear or of impending disaster and is a normal emotional response to danger. Everyone feels anxiety at some stage in their lives, and it is only when it interferes with daily life and activities that it becomes a problem and requires professional help. Anxiety or constant worry about financial situations, retirement, relationships and work can all impact on individuals and can be countered through a number of self help strategies as well as professional advice from your doctor.

Common symptoms of anxiety include:
• irritability, or being in a constantly bad mood
• difficulty concentrating and getting to/staying asleep
• apprehension or a constant feeling that something bad is about to happen
• muscle tension and headaches
• rapid heart rate and breathing/Dry mouth or difficulty swallowing
• nightmares/Trembling/Diarrhoea/Illness flare up/sweating

To alleviate anxiety there are a number of coping strategies that can be highly effective:
• Look at the things that are causing you stress and if possible change your lifestyle to avoid or confront those things.
• An improvement in your overall health and well being through a healthy diet, regular exercise and the practice of utilising relaxation and breathing techniques can all reduce anxiety.
• Communicate regularly with friends and family, or your local counsellor or pastor. Let them know your feelings and listen to their advice.

Chronic pain
Chronic Pain is defined as continuous pain for more than three months, and is usually associated with injuries, surgery and medical conditions such as cancer, arthritis and lower back pain. In some cases there is no evident cause or treatment.
On average one third of Australians are in pain of some sort at any one time, and when a cause is treated there is often ongoing associated pain afterwards. There are a number of management strategies for chronic pain such as acupuncture, massage therapy and pain-killing medications. Medical studies have also concluded that the quality of life can be improved depending upon how an individual copes emotionally with pain and their outlook on life.
Both feature a wide range of links, tips and pain management strategies that will be of benefit to sufferers of Chronic Pain.

Depression
Depression is a very common mental health problem which is significantly different from mere unhappiness or sadness and is known as a depressive disorder. It is a long lasting and often recurring illness that can be as debilitating as heart disease.
A depressive disorder may feature feelings of oppressive sadness, guilt, shame and fatigue. Individuals may often feel isolated, lonely, helpless, worthless and lost. Life events such as bereavement, chronic pain, isolation and illness can often trigger such disorders and it is important to recognise the symptoms and seek advice from your doctor or counsellor.

Grief and loss
The process of grieving is natural and can continue for a long period of time, but help is available to cope with the feelings of grief and loss. Grief is a response to loss, particularly the death of a loved one that will often affect thoughts, feelings, behaviours, beliefs and relationships with other people. Many people experience feelings of sadness and anxiety, and the process of grieving can continue for a long period of time, coming and going in waves. Grief is a normal experience, and the process of grieving does require experiencing the pain of loss. Grief is a process and not an event and most people will continue to grieve in subtle ways for the rest of their lives.
There are several national support organisations with local representation around the country for grief and loss.

Loneliness and social isolation
Increasing your physical and social activity is the key to dealing with loneliness and social isolation. Ageing can often lead to social isolation as a result of increased frailty, lack of mobility, and the loss of friends and family. The resulting feelings can lead to depression and a range of physical symptoms such as sleep disorders, lack of appetite and lower energy levels. Here are symptoms and strategies for dealing with loneliness.

Experiences of loneliness can range from a vague feeling that something is not right to an intense deprivation and deep pain. Loneliness is not the same as being alone; it is the feeling of being alone and being sad about it. While everyone feels lonely some of the time, it is only when you feel trapped in your loneliness that it becomes a real problem.

Loneliness is a passive state, and as such people contribute to their loneliness by letting it continue and doing nothing to change it. To do so is to embrace the feelings of loneliness which leads to a sense of depression and helplessness which in turn leads to a more passive state and more depression.
The keys to alleviating these feelings are to admit and express feelings of loneliness which in turn lead to recognition of the connections to other aspects of life where changes can then be made.

Naturally, becoming more active is the main way to deal with loneliness. Contact friends, family or counsellors/pastors if suitable to help deal with the feelings of loneliness, especially if it is from bereavement.

Getting involved in clubs and associations with people who have similar interests can divert loneliness, widen networks of friends and increase social skills, provide structure and routine so that there are things to look forward to, and be enjoyable.

If you find you are having difficulty dealing with feelings of loneliness on your own, talk to a counsellor, religious leader.//Seniors

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Mental Health: Keeping Your Emotional Health

What is good emotional health?

People who are emotionally healthy are in control of their thoughts, feelings and behaviors. They feel good about themselves and have good relationships. They can keep problems in perspective.
It's important to remember that people who have good emotional health sometimes have emotional problems or mental illness. Mental illness often has a physical cause, such as a chemical imbalance in the brain. Stress and problems with family, work or school can sometimes trigger mental illness or make it worse. However, people who are emotionally healthy have learned ways to cope with stress and problems. They know when they need to seek help from their doctor or a counselor.

What about anger?
People are sometimes not aware of what causes their anger, how much anger they are holding inside or how to express anger. You may be angry about certain events or your own or other people's actions. Also, many little things can build up to make you feel that life is unfair.
If you find yourself becoming increasingly irritable or taking unhealthy risks (like drinking too much or abusing drugs), you may have a problem dealing with anger. It's very important to talk with your doctor or a counselor about getting help.

What can I do to avoid problems?
First, notice your emotions and reactions and try to understand them. Learning how to sort out the causes of sadness, frustration and anger in your life can help you better manage your emotional health. The box to the right gives some other helpful tips.

How does stress affect my emotions?
Your body responds to stress by making stress hormones. These hormones help your body respond to situations of extreme need. But when your body makes too many of these hormones for a long period of time, the hormones wear down your body -- and your emotions. People who are under stress a lot are often emotional, anxious, irritable and even depressed.

If possible, try to change the situation that is causing your stress. Relaxation methods, such as deep breathing and meditation, and exercise are also useful ways to cope with stress.

Can emotional problems be treated?
Yes. Counseling, support groups and medicines can help people who have emotional problems or mental illness. If you have an ongoing emotional problem, talk to your family doctor. He or she can help you find the right type of treatment.

Tips on dealing with your emotions
• Learn to express your feelings in appropriate ways. It's important to let people close to you know when something is bothering you. Keeping feelings of sadness or anger inside takes extra energy and can cause problems in your relationships and at work or school.
• Think before you act. Emotions can be powerful. But before you get carried away by your emotions and say or do something you might regret, give yourself time to think.
• Strive for balance in your life. Make time for things you enjoy. Focus on positive things in your life.
• Take care of your physical health. Your physical health can affect your emotional health. Take care of your body by exercising regularly, eating healthy meals and getting enough sleep. Don't abuse drugs or alcohol. //Familydoctor

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ANXIETY DISORDERS

What are Anxiety Disorders?
Anxiety is a normal reaction to stress. It helps one deal with a tense situation in the office, study harder for an exam, keep focused on an important speech. In general, it helps one cope. But when anxiety becomes an excessive, irrational dread of everyday situations, it has become a disabling disorder. Anxiety Disorders affect about 40 million American adults age 18 years and older (about 18%) in a given year,1 causing them to be filled with fearfulness and uncertainty. Unlike the relatively mild, brief anxiety caused by a stressful event (such as speaking in public or a first date), anxiety disorders last at least 6 months and can get worse if they are not treated. Anxiety disorders commonly occur along with other mental or physical illnesses, including alcohol or substance abuse, which may mask anxiety symptoms or make them worse. In some cases, these other illnesses need to be treated before a person will respond to treatment for the anxiety disorder.
Effective therapies for anxiety disorders are available, and research is uncovering new treatments that can help most people with anxiety disorders lead productive, fulfilling lives. If you think you have an anxiety disorder, you should seek information and treatment right away.
This booklet will
• describe the symptoms of anxiety disorders,
• explain the role of research in understanding the causes of these conditions,
• describe effective treatments,
• help you learn how to obtain treatment and work with a doctor or therapist, and
• suggest ways to make treatment more effective.
The following anxiety disorders are discussed in this brochure:
• panic disorder,
• obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD),
• post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD),
• social phobia (or social anxiety disorder),
• specific phobias, and
• generalized anxiety disorder (GAD).
Each anxiety disorder has different symptoms, but all the symptoms cluster around excessive, irrational fear and dread.

Five major types of anxiety disorders are:
• Generalized Anxiety Disorder
• Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
• Panic Disorder
• Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
• Social Phobia (or Social Anxiety Disorder)
Treatment
Effective treatments for anxiety disorders are available, and research is yielding new, improved therapies that can help most people with anxiety disorders lead productive, fulfilling lives.
Getting Help: Locate Services
If unsure where to go for help, talk to someone you trust who has experience in mental health—for example, a doctor, nurse, social worker, or religious counselor. Ask their advice on where to seek treatment. If there is a university nearby, its departments of psychiatry or psychology may offer private and/or sliding-scale fee clinic treatment options. Otherwise, check the Yellow Pages under "mental health," "health," "social services," "crisis intervention services," "hotlines," "hospitals," or "physicians" for phone numbers and addresses. In times of crisis, the emergency room doctor at a hospital may be able to provide temporary help for a mental health problem, and will be able to tell you where and how to get further help.
Listed below are the types of people and places that will make a referral to, or provide, diagnostic and treatment services.
• Mental health specialists, such as psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers, or mental health counselors
• Religious leaders/counselors
• Health maintenance organizations
• Community mental health centers
• Hospital psychiatry departments and outpatient clinics
• University- or medical school-affiliated programs
• State hospital outpatient clinics
• Social service agencies
• Private clinics and facilities
• Employee assistance programs
• Local medical and/or psychiatric societies. /NIMH

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